adoption questions

Here are some discussion questions from www.itsaboutlove.org. Which is a website for LDS social services for adoption.

1. Do you and your spouse have similar feelings about adoption?

2. Yes___ No___

   Are you and your spouse excited about the prospect of becoming parents through adoption?

3. Yes___ No___

   Are you realistic about the joys, heartaches, struggles, and rewards that can accompany parenthood?

4. Yes___ No___

   Are you ready to let go of the idea of having children through pregnancy?

5. Yes___ No___

   Do you understand that adoption will not cure the pain of infertility?

6. Yes___ No___

   Do you and your spouse have a solid, healthy relationship?

7. Yes___ No___

   Are you ready to be a parent to a child who doesn’t have biological ties to you?

8. Yes___ No___

   Can you provide a loving atmosphere in which a child may thrive?

9. Yes___ No___

   Are you prepared to deal with a child’s questions and possible feelings of loss?

10. Yes___ No___

    Are you prepared for the rigors of the adoption process?

11. Yes___ No___

    Are you prepared for the possibility that adoption can result in conflicting, complicated emotions?

    
    

    
    

    I'm not sure that I can give an absolute Yes to all of these questions. defiantly something to think about and discuss.

    
    

    I've been looking on line for more information on adoption. It really is so overwhelming for me. It seems so hard. It's giving Shaun and I a lot to think about, to worry about, to be concerned about, to be excited about, and on and on.

    I'm really concerned about the financial cost. It's something that Shaun and I would have to save up for. Which only would prolong the process even more.

    There's also a lot to consider about what age you're willing to adopt. For me, I really want Max to be the oldest child. For several reasons.

    There's so many variables to consider here. It's defiantly going to be a long process. Max is only one but I would like to have another child before he's 10! We still have the option of in-vitro. Both ways are going to cost a lot of money and be a challenge. We'll have to have a lot of faith and be praying a lot. It will be interesting to see what happens with our family. Whatever does happen, We will always be a family. Together forever. :)

    
    

    
    

    
    

    
    

    
    

    
    

Adoption and In-vitro

We have to have another child. Max needs a sibling. How boring to be an only child. I know our family isn't done growing. May sound easy enough? Not for Shaun and me.

I need to make an appointment with the infertility center and get more information about doing In-vitro with the embryo's we have frozen.

We also need to start the adoption process. It seems so overwhelming to me. It wont be a problem for Shaun and I to adopt a child and love them as our own. It's the process that scares me. It seems so emotionally and financially draining. I really don't know where to begin.

They say that you should tell everyone you know that your looking to adopt. So I'm letting everyone know that Shaun and I would like to adopt. It seems so weird to say that. Hey everyone, If your looking to, or know someone who wants to give up a baby, Let me know. ?!?! It just feels so impersonal to me. It's a good thing to get the word out.

Maybe it could happen naturally this time. I don't know. I do know that we need more children. Some way, some how.

Let the process begin. As soon as I can figure out how, what, and when.

I wish it didn't have to feel so overwhelming and demand so much from us. That's the price you pay. Those are the cards Shaun and I have been dealt. We can do this! We've already been blessed with our Max. I would go through the same long process. With all it's ups and downs. The pain and heartache. To get my Max. I guess that's the beauty of it all. It may be so hard. It may push me beyond what I thought I could do. but you learn that anything is possible with help from above. :)

Maybe by posting this blog post will get me started in the right direction. It just seems so hard.

I need to stop talking and start doing. It could be a long road ahead.....

Maybe I'm not ready just yet. The only problem is, I feel that when I am ready, It would be nice to have the process all ready started.

For now, we'll be enjoying each other and our little family. Hoping that eventually, another will join us. Because I feel that there is another.....