Thursday, April 22, 2010

Adoption and In-vitro

We have to have another child. Max needs a sibling. How boring to be an only child. I know our family isn't done growing. May sound easy enough? Not for Shaun and me.
I need to make an appointment with the infertility center and get more information about doing In-vitro with the embryo's we have frozen.
We also need to start the adoption process. It seems so overwhelming to me. It wont be a problem for Shaun and I to adopt a child and love them as our own. It's the process that scares me. It seems so emotionally and financially draining. I really don't know where to begin.
They say that you should tell everyone you know that your looking to adopt. So I'm letting everyone know that Shaun and I would like to adopt. It seems so weird to say that. Hey everyone, If your looking to, or know someone who wants to give up a baby, Let me know. ?!?! It just feels so impersonal to me. It's a good thing to get the word out.

Maybe it could happen naturally this time. I don't know. I do know that we need more children. Some way, some how.
Let the process begin. As soon as I can figure out how, what, and when.
I wish it didn't have to feel so overwhelming and demand so much from us. That's the price you pay. Those are the cards Shaun and I have been dealt. We can do this! We've already been blessed with our Max. I would go through the same long process. With all it's ups and downs. The pain and heartache. To get my Max. I guess that's the beauty of it all. It may be so hard. It may push me beyond what I thought I could do. but you learn that anything is possible with help from above. :)
Maybe by posting this blog post will get me started in the right direction. It just seems so hard.
I need to stop talking and start doing. It could be a long road ahead.....
Maybe I'm not ready just yet. The only problem is, I feel that when I am ready, It would be nice to have the process all ready started.
For now, we'll be enjoying each other and our little family. Hoping that eventually, another will join us. Because I feel that there is another.....


Chance's Mom said...

You will get those little babies meant to come to matter the method. I will be praying for you and the little spirits coming to you... wherever they
are. By the way, I know people who got the word out and then the baby did come......

br_oden said...

I know it can be oeverwhelming. Bennett and I have been talking about the same thing. I try not to bring it up to much right now. Because usually the answer is I just cant. I know we arent done either. If you ever need someone to talk to who has been there let me know. Bennett and I filled out adoption papers a couple times and I had started our "adoption" letter. Much love and prayers your way.

shaunandammie said...

Thank you! Thank you! It means a lot to me. :)

Head Nurse or Patient- you be the judge said...

As an Adoptive Mom- the term "give up a baby" kind of grates. Placing a baby or having a baby placed in your arms is emotional and stressful, but, quite frankly, so is every other way I have ever heard of. Being pregnant isn't easy and stressfree. The three days between knowing our hopeful baby was being born and the moment we held him in our arms were incredibly stress-filled, but so where the four months of trying to keep our firstborn alive before he was born. The paperwork can seem hard- but one page at a time :) If you have any questions you might want to ask- feel free- Amy and Aaron know how to reach me.

Oh- and funny story- my special gift was one of the first babies Aaron ever held, and he was stressed out - HAHA!

shaunandammie said...

I do like the term "placing a baby" much better! It does grate to think give up a baby. Thank you for that. I didn't even realize that you had adopted. That's good to know. Thank you for your words. They are very helpful. :)
I can just see Aaron holding your baby for the first time and stressing. ;)